Blended Families Are Beautiful
Tonight my 4 year old daughter went to a Father-Daughter Dance. From the day she found out about the dance, she said that she wanted to dance with her daddy and her stepdad. Yesterday, she told me that my husband was her second daddy. I was a little apprehensive about telling her dad that she wanted her stepdad at the dance with them. I didn’t want his feelings to be hurt, or for him to feel like my husband was stepping on his toes. However, it was all for her benefit, so I was hoping he would be understanding. Actually, he was more than understanding. He even said that he was thinking maybe they could all go together.
What happened at the dance was beautiful. They danced, took pictures, and did crafts. My husband took a video of our little girl dancing with her daddy, and my ex was grateful. Everything went well, and I realized something: Our blended family was finally working.
Blended families can be tricky. There are so many things that can go wrong. There are feelings that get hurt, and it can be difficult to raise children together. However, there the most important thing to remember is that you all love the same little people. They are the reason for everything we do. Every decision we make is in their best interest. No matter what, we are all a family, and we want our kids to grow up in a healthy, stable environment. Having parents and stepparents that get along with each other is imperative to stabilizing the family. We want them to be happy, and they can sense tension. I never speak badly of my ex or his girlfriend. I would never want my kids to think that I didn’t respect their role in our family.
There are plenty of family functions that we attend together, including birthday parties and school functions. We are two families that come together as one for the benefit of the kids. Their world is split between two worlds, but once in awhile, we join those worlds together for them. And when we are apart, I know they are in good hands.
Kids need that. They need parents that trust each other and make it work for their benefit. Whatever the circumstances, no matter how painful the breakup, making sure our children are in a stable, loving environment is the most important thing. We put them first. Everything else will eventually fall into place. I know that I am lucky things are working out so well, but it wasn’t always that way. Things were difficult at first. It took a long time to get to this place, but I’m glad we are finally here.